A few months back, I came across a digital advertisement of a Furniture brand offering a solution for couples who break up and move out of their relationship. Well, that's good but then, why???
The advertisement made me realise that people don’t shy away from stating that romantic relationships today are similar to ‘2-minute noodles’. The essence of slow cooked biryani seems to be lost.
‘I call it ‘2-minute noodles’ because people want things to happen fast, if something doesn’t add up to their convenience. They easily prefer to break up and move on. Well, of course there are exceptions. In some cases, people don’t give up, while in others, people should.
The point I am trying to address here is that why are we losing out on the essence of gradually nurturing a relationship (like a biryani) that happens over time.
No, I am not being biased, there are pros too. Today people are more aware of their priorities in lives, careers, and what kind of spouse/partner they seek. And it is nice to see that kind of clarity and awareness among people. The question to ask here is how much are they willing to accommodate, adjust, compromise for their partners. Career is important for both of them; they both work hard to achieve their goals, and so are family and parents as well.
Several Facebook groups are full of stories of married women narrating their tales of horror of married life; either troubled by husband’s narcissism or infidelity or broken by in-laws deception. Such stories further scares women and as a means to take precautions beforehand, they set up hoards of limitations and demands (not all could be justified).
The previous generations, and, in fact, women even today believed that once married you have to take that relationship to your death bed; irrespective of whether the relationship is good or bad. But men and women today don't go by that rule. They give priority to their (or each others’) wellbeing -mental, emotional and physical, too. It's good!
However, the drawback I see here is often people are in a hurry to come to a conclusion and decide whether the existing relationship will work or not. They take the relationship to be nothing less than a ‘2- minute noodles’ (yes it features again, and assume that multiple flavours or variants are available. You pick it from the shelf, discard it if you don’t like it and you will someday find the best flavour. My question is, how much are you willing to work out the things, adjust, communicate, explain, understand, talk, to your partner to make this relationship work? If you decide to work on this one relationship, maybe you might not need to worry about dumping the current partner and looking for another.
Or do you think breakup is an easier way out?
How emotionally invested are you in that relationship? Or are you scared to get attached because of the fear of parting ways, always looms over your head. Isn’t that like expecting a break up already? Then why get into a relationship at all?
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